All About Anal: Toys & Tips
One of the most frequently asked questions I receive is “what toys are best for anal play?”
I love hearing that folks are interested in expanding their sexual repertoire through exploring anal play. Everybody has a butt, and every butt has lots of nerve endings that can make for fun and pleasurable play. The basic tenets of safe butt play are:
Use LOTS of lube. The anus doesn’t lubricate itself, so lube is necessary for safe butt play.
All butt toys must have a flared base. Toys can’t get lost in the vagina, but they can get lost inside the butt. As my old boss used to say, “You don’t want to be the cautionary tale at the emergency room.”
Go slow, take it easy, and stop if you feel pain. Pain is the body’s way of saying “too much, too soon,” and it’s important to respect that. Never use numbing agents, as numbing pain receptors can lead to injury.
So which toys really are best for butt play?
As with anything sexuality-related, it depends. However, there are some fan-favorite products that I would highly recommend for beginners. Let’s explore!
Mood Silicone Small Butt Plug: This plug is soft, small, and perfect for beginners! Silicone is non-porous, so it won’t hold on to bacteria after thorough cleaning; you can even boil it or throw it in the dishwater! The plug is approximately the size of a pinkie, so if you’ve already explored that far, you may want to try the Medium or Large sizes.
nJoy Stainless Steel Pure Plug Small: For a firmer, smoother, and heavier feel, try the nJoy Pure Plug. Steel is a wonderful material for the aforementioned sensations, for its nonporosity, and its ability to warm or cool for temperature play. The Pure Plugs also come in a variety of sizes; check out the Medium, Large, or 2.0 for successively larger and heavier options.
Rocks-Off O-Boy Prostate Vibrator: The O-Boy has the same flexible silicone as the Fuze plug, plus optional vibration and an ergonomic curve for prostate massage. For those who prefer a firmer and heavier prostate toy, try the steel nJoy Pfun Prostate Plug.
To complement your new toy(s) and make sure your butt play goes smoothly and safely, let’s look at some favorite lubes:
Uberlube Silicone Lubricant: Silicone lube is ideal for butt play, as the body doesn’t absorb it. However, it is not compatible with silicone toys (like the Fuze plugs or O-Boy).
Sliquid Sassy Water Based Anal Lube: As a water-based lube, Sliquid Sassy is compatible with all toy materials. Water-based lube will eventually absorb into the body, so you may need to reapply.
And because I’m a shameless literary nerd, you know I had to include some books. These will help improve your knowledge of anal toys, play, and practices, so you can have the safest and most pleasurable play possible.
Anal Sex Basics: The Beginner's Guide to Maximizing Anal Pleasure for Every Body: This book is short, sweet, and packed with information. Graphics and diagrams round out the easy-to-read text.
Anal Pleasure and Health: Therapist Jack Morin, Ph.D, guides readers on a more detailed “tour of the anus,” including tips for health, comfort, and pleasure.
I hope this helped you find some inspiration and education for your butt play exploration. If you have additional questions or would like further guidance, feel free to book a 1:1 consultation with me!
